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haha…have u ever gone through an experience where u think the other person of the opposite sex likes u or shows interest in you.?..and it turns out to be the contrary…or maybe vice versa..how do u know if the other person is really interested in you?..(just a sidenote, if u’re 15 and below, stop reading this and go study for PMR)

i don’t know about girls but for guys, i have an opinion. this is for u girls(i mean real biological original girls coz it’s confusing these days). unless a guy speaks out, with his lips, in an understandable language like english or BM or mandarin that he is interested in u, do not assume that he is interested in you even though it seems like all the non-verbal language is saying that he likes u. if that guy doesn’t speak it out verbally to u and stating his intention towards you, it’s either he just wants to be your friend only or he’s a chicken who doesn’t have the guts to say it out..the second kind of guy doesn’t deserve your extra attention, so don’t let him presume that he has any chance at all. just treat him like any other friend of yours(by the way, u’ll never know if the guy is just messing with u or maybe he just cares for u as his sister). don’t risk yourself to do the initiating if u’re not sure of his intention(even  if u like him a lot). if he really has intention to marry you, let him do the talking first. if he’s not a man or not man enough yet, just let him alone. just be a friend or a sister to him, and no more.

for the guys(myself included), i have to say this. it’s a shame for the guys(not all) because we do not have the guts to do the talking and initiating the relationship with the woman whom we love and wish to marry(if u’re not able to marry yet or u have the gift of celibacy, then it’s understandable). many times, the woman have to take up the initiating role simply because the guy is a chicken. the same goes for friendship with girls. the guys have to make effort to initiate conversation with girls without being so self-conscious of "what will she think of me?" or "what will others say?". be a man!! come on. guys, we can do it. it’s not a sin to talk to girls. i hope u realize by now…they are our sisters..why should we be afraid to talk to our sisters…guys, don’t expect girls to come and talk to u by pretending to be cool and assume the girls will initiate a conversation with u….if not many girls come and talk to u, don’t say that the girls don’t like u or u’re not handsome enough. go and do the talking, for manhood sake.

guys, if u can’t even socialise with girls well, why do u expect to have a girlfriend or a relationship beyond friendship with the opposite sex? can u just imagine if u go into marriage like that, u’re gonna communicate with your wife using Morse Code, if she does not start a verbal conversation with u.

i’m not asking u to go and mess around with girls like a playboy or casanova, but just be yourself and be a brother to your sisters. Even Jesus did the talking first with the woman at the well, and his disciples felt strange about that. to sum it all, it’s about humbling ourselves and letting go of our pride as men, and to be others-centered and not self-centered.

(fact or fiction?)

it’s because she was from Netherlands.